When he starts like this, I can’t help but wish he would just knock me out cold rather than smash my heart with his words.
His words stings more than I would like to admit, if I didn’t love him so much I am sure I would have left him long ago.
Maybe that is the problem, I cannot leave him and he knows it. He never missed any opportunity to tell me how lucky I was to have him, how useless and unfulfilling my life would be if he hadn’t married me.
Stanley was my knight in shining armor as he came into my life at my lowest state. He did not mind how I was and was determined to help me be everything I had thought I would never be. He was my strength and self-worth.
Despite everything, I couldn’t still believe it when he asked me to marry him. It was like a dream from that moment till we finally tied the knot.
Marriage was the reality that woke me up from my dreams as I awoke to the harsh reality of Stanley’s criticism and self-glory in making me who I am.
Now I am back to the state he met me initially, only this time I am in a far worse state as I cannot escape from this reality.
Verbal abuse is the most common way to control the actions, opinions, and emotions of another person. Scheming behaviors are premeditated to influence the person into doing what the abuser wants them to do under the façade of love or respect or fear.
Have you resigned yourself to verbal abuse from your spouse?
Have you totally lost your self-worth and believe every degrading thing your spouse says you are?
Verbal abuse is worse than physical abuse, only the victim feels the scar and nurses it. Its scars cannot be cured by taking medication or going for surgery.
It even takes longer to heal and restore to original state because most victims of verbal abuse do not even know they victims.
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